Fantasizing Part 6

Unexpected Upset

Fantasizing Part 6 of 7 by Chamuel

When you have an unexpected upset or upsetting fear, you can immediately go into fantasizing that everything is all right, completely ignoring your existing circumstances. It's like going off into Wonderland, or never-never-land or some other space you create in your mind, but your body is not doing anything in your present.

It is different than freezing, because when you are fantasizing, you go into imagination mode which is several levels above fear which resides in the astral level, so you feel immediately better in your physical body and in your mental body or your mind, you are extremely active. Perhaps you are thinking of ways out of your situation, but you are fantasizing. Perhaps you are creating a romantic ending or a huge battle where you are emerging the victor on top of the mountain with your sword raised to the heavens doing some sort of victory scream, or perhaps you are jumping on the horse to save the maiden in distress or buying that new thing you have been wanting. In any event, you are playing games in your mind, but nothing is happening in your present, and whatever caused the unexpected upset could still be happening.

If you were in an avalanche, you would now be buried in snow because you stayed still. It isn't that you were frozen. Your mind was busy going pell-mell 600 miles an hour, finding a miraculous solution of some sort, but your body was not responding. When you are in freeze mode, you cannot even think of a solution. This response is not helpful to you either, because the situation around you continue and could cause you bodily harm in many ways. So, to eliminate this programming and stop being triggered, say out loud:

Chamuel:  Heal, clear and remove all programming that causes the symptom of fantasizing because of an unexpected upsetting fear in all dimensions of time and space. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

Breathing exercise.

Breathe out: Fantasizing because of an unexpected upsetting fear

Breathe in:  Peaceful resolution.

Next is Part 7 - Forgetting

Unexpected Upset - Fornicating Part 5

When you have an unexpected upset or upsetting fear, many times you will or can be in a situation where you turn to someone you normally wouldn't turn to for solace and that solace is the need for human connection. However, your intended reaction should have been getting rid of overwhelm and noticing what is actually happening, and instead you reach for the person next to you and become sexual as a way to release your emotions inappropriately.

Let us say, perhaps you are in an extreme situation such as a war. It may not be a war as in guns, etc. perhaps you are in a war with your partner, you are both out at a party somewhere and you have an unexpected confrontation with your partner and turned to someone else at the party for solace. Perhaps you have ingested some sort of a cocktail whether food, drugs or booze and your inhibitions are slightly reduced and so you end up fornicating with someone else other than your partner because of the argument and your fear that they will no longer love you. The fear that they will no longer love you, is not conscious in your mind. You only know that they acted very strange. You got overwhelmed and did not know what to do. But you know that you are terribly afraid, and you feel like they don't love you anymore, so you seek solace in the arms of another, which only adds to the complication of your already existing overwhelm and malfunctioning set of coping mechanisms.

A second method can often be masturbation, you become very upset and you don't know what to do so, you go in the nearest place you can, at the first moment you can and masturbate to make yourself feel better because the sexual release, whether through masturbation or fornication allows you to momentarily feel good. However, this is usually followed by some sort of feelings of blame, guilt or of shame. This does not resolve your original issue and now you have two issues to deal with. So, to eliminate this programming, which we labeled fornicating we ask that you do the following. Say aloud:

Chamuel: Heal, clear and remove my need for sexual gratification or fornicating programming because of an unexpected upset or upsetting fear, in all dimensions of time and space. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

Breathing exercise.

Breathe out:  Fornicating because of unexpected upset or upsetting fear

Breathe in:    Peaceful resolution.

Unexpected Upset - Feed - Part 4

by Chamuel

When you become unexpectedly upset, causing you to become fearful, many times to get over your fear, you will immediately want to ingest something to eat. So rather than dealing with your emotions or trying to sort out the overwhelm or situation, you will almost robotically go and start eating. Perhaps you eat a whole box of cookies or you eat something you don't normally care for. Whatever it is, you immediately want to ingest something. It is what it was like when you were a baby and you became frightened, your mother gave you a baby bottle to calm you down, or perhaps a teat or a pacifier. In any event, she fed you when you became upset and that became a learned behavior. It is a calming thing.

However, if you do not handle your emotions, you can turn this programming into an eating disorder because you're not handling your emotions and can be creating such diseases as alcoholism, anorexia, bulimia, or simply becoming obese. You either eat or ingest something. Perhaps you opt for a drink which can result in the disease of alcoholism. Perhaps you ingest a pill or 14 which can result in addiction. In any event, you feel you must put something in your mouth.

To allow yourself space when you become overwhelmed or upset say the following aloud:

Raphael, clear and remove any programming that causes the symptoms of me putting something to eat or drink in my mouth because of an unexpected upset or upsetting fear. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

Breathing exercise of at least 3 breaths.

Breathe out:  Feeding myself liquids or solids because of fear and overwhelm

Breathe in:    Peaceful resolution.

Next month is Part 5 – Fornicate

Unexpected Upset - Freeze - Part 3

by Chamuel

Many times, when you have an unexpected upset and go into fear, your reaction is to simply freeze. Marge calls it turning into a hypnotized oyster. Someone says something that you just did not comprehend whatsoever. How could they possibly say that or do that or think that, and you become so overwhelmed, you just freeze and are unable to move, speak or even hardly think. This is like the rabbit that you see portrayed as being chased and stopping still in its tracks, so the hawk can no longer see its movement, and the hawk will continue looking for movement until it spots something else or the rabbit moves. It is a response to an unexpected upset or upsetting fear.

If this fear is great enough or happens often, without being released or recognized by you, you may also create an invisible program, which in turn can create other issues for you later.  You simply didn’t want people to notice you, so you would be safe, but then later on, you cannot understand why people don’t notice you, so you do things to make yourself more noticeable such as being very different from them and saying or doing things that are not the social norm or even things that are socially unacceptable.  This ultimately becomes a circular trap.  Don’t notice me. I am not safe. I am scared. So, I do things I am not proud of, and become ashamed of my behavior and start hating myself, etc. This can ultimately lead to agoraphobia, depression and suicide.

To eliminate this response or minimize it so that you can respond quicker and heal, say aloud:

Chamuel: Heal, clear or remove my programming which creates the symptom of freezing, when I become suddenly upset and fearful as well as all overwhelm programming. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

Do the following breathing exercise:

Breathe out: Freezing and overwhelm

Breathe in:    Peaceful Resolution

Next month we will cover Part 4 - Feed

Unexpected Upset - Part 2 - Fight

by Chamuel

The fear triggered by some unexpected upset causes you to become upset or get really scared and you react in 1 of 7 ways by going into some sort of avoidance pattern. Most people believe they are flight, fight or freeze. Below is the second way you can react.

When you become scared or upset, suddenly, as a reaction to something, you may go into fight mode. Perhaps you are simply in the doctor's office and he wants to run a test, your reaction immediate reaction is NO. You think ‘You doctors are alike. You just want to run tests and cost me more money.’ So, you are immediately attacking or confronting the doctor which is a form of fighting. Any sort of resistance, which is putting up your hand and saying ‘No, I'm not going to do that or actually moving forward is aggression toward another, which is a form of fighting. So, you become scared and upset, which of course covers up your fear, or it is a result of becoming afraid and fearful, you are not trusting that everything is all right. Therefore, you put up resistance. That resistance does not allow you to come to a place of peaceful resolution and certainly does not allow discussion or cooperation. It puts walls between you and the other person instead of holding their hand and working your way through as a team, you are putting a wall between you and them that screams NO way, stay away, keep out, etc.

So, to eliminate this immediate response of fight fighting and aggression, we would have you do the following clearing by saying out loud:

Chamuel: Heal, clear and remove my fight response to upset and fear. In all dimensions time and space, so I can instead have peaceful resolution. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

Do the breathing exercise of at least 3 breaths.

Breathe out:  Fighting and resisting

Breathe in:    Peaceful resolution

Then if a program gets triggered later, you can remember to Converse rather than Confront, or Figure it out rather than Fight.

Next month will be Part #3 - Feed

Delusion or Solution?

By Chamuel

As you wander around in a daily basis, are you stuck in illusion or delusion? Your illusion is that perhaps things outside of you are causing your unhappiness, keeping you blocked from something you want. This illusion can quickly become delusion, meaning that you have moved from feel good to feel bad. At this point somehow, you need to stop blaming and start taking responsibility and looking for a solution. The solution, of course, is to change yourself. By changing yourself you will change your outside circumstances, so your delusion will be solved by your solution, so you can once again feel good. The answer always lies within.

Unexpected Upset - Part 1 - Flight

Unexpected Upset - Part 1 - Flight

A seven-part series by Chamuel

The fear triggered by some unexpected upset causes you to become upset or get really scared and you react in 1 of 7 ways by going into some sort of avoidance pattern. Most people believe they are flight, fight or freeze. However, these are the first three of seven and these can all be reduced in their severity, though maybe not completely eradicated, depending on which ones you have. Below we will make a complete listing with a healing for each one, and they are as follows:

Flight

Whenever you become upset or angry, it is because you have an underlying fear. When you become fearful, you have a reaction. For some of you, your first inclination is to simply run. You have this inclination because you have many past life times’ where you were killed, when you did not escape in time. So, for example, you hear an extremely loud noise, become frightened and then you will want to flee. Perhaps an earthquake happens, and you will run out of the building, regardless of who you leave behind or perhaps it is as scary movie and you know that it's just a movie, but, you become so frightened you immediately leave the theater or the room in the middle of the movie or perhaps just shut it off if it is your television. So that is a flight response, simply due to an impulsive reaction and not necessarily an action that is helpful to you in your existing circumstances.

We would like to remove the programming that causes you to immediately flee without taking one or two seconds to ask yourself if this is really a situation you want to run from. If it is the scary movie or simply a loud noise like a firecracker or car backfiring. there is no need to flee. If it is an earthquake or an avalanche, then certainly you should flee and begin immediately, but taking one second isn't usually going to make that much of a difference to you. It could, but we are saying, most likely it won't, and the amount of times that you are now fleeing would be reduced to nearly never. Instead, you would recognize the fear, and think ‘It's just a movie and I'm okay.' Then you could choose to continue to watch it or turn it off and watch something more pleasant, but you would not need to flee the scene. So, to eliminate your fleeing program as a response and allow you instead to choose; simply say out loud: Raphael, clear and remove my fleeing programming because of I got frightened in all dimensions of time and space. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

Now do the breathing exercise of at least 3 breaths.

Breathe out: Flight or fleeing

Breathe in:   Peaceful resolution

Next month, we will help you release the second pattern which is fighting.